Rules, Schmules


Peter Pan collar dress & Swedish Hasbeens on Lala Faux Bois

This outfit got me thinking about how much I hate the idea of “fashion rules” and “dressing your age”. As someone in their mid-30s, it may not be commonplace to wear knee socks or still be so in love with short dresses and Peter Pan collars, but I do and I am! I’ve always been a firm believer in wearing what you love even if it may not follow the rules- although there were definitely periods in my life I was guilty of conforming out of insecurity, and those are what I’d consider my biggest fashion fails, even over embarrassing outfits.

I hate when I hear someone saying they should stop wearing something because of their age, or imposing arbitrary age limits on styles! Or thinking there’s an age cap on having a personal style blog- because boy do I get strange comments from my peers sometimes :)

I’ve always cared a lot about clothes, and I always feel my best when I’ve put together an outfit I feel good in. That may sound superficial, but I think it’s true for a lot of people, if we’re being honest… That’s why I say wear what makes you happy! A lot of people wouldn’t feel comfortable in turquoise knee socks, and I totally get that. A lot of people feel their most confident in a power suit, when I would feel ridiculously out of place wearing one.

Peter Pan collar dress & Swedish Hasbeens on Lala Faux Bois

Peter Pan collar dress & Swedish Hasbeens on Lala Faux Bois

Dress: thrifted
Bag: vintage shop in Austin (the story of it here)
Shoes: Swedish Hasbeens (super sale here!)
Socks: Nordstrom Last Chance

Peter Pan collar dress & Swedish Hasbeens on Lala Faux Bois

This doesn’t mean my style doesn’t change, I definitely see it naturally shift (thank goodness!) on a regular basis- I just try to stay true to what I love. And stay away from judging other’s fashion choices, which is the other big piece of respecting personal style. Treat people how you want to be treated, and all that jazz.

What are your thoughts on fashion rules and dressing your age?

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27 Responses to Rules, Schmules

  1. Natasha says:

    I also think it’s silly that some things are seen as only for people of a certain age. But I also feel that my style has gotten a lot more “sophisticated” as I got older :)

    • lalafauxbois says:

      I definitely notice my stye changing but I don’t think it’s ever gone towards “sophisticated” like I thought it would :)

  2. Justine says:

    You go girl! Honestly I never understand fashion rules in general. I wear what I like and what I feel comfortable in. It may not be what is in right now or what other people like but who cares. I learned long ago to not worry about such things. Plus I love vintage fashion which not everyone gets or thinks is too dressed up. I think you rock this outfit and thats all that matters. I didnt even know you were in your 30’s anyways but who cares I would never look at you and say that is not an outfit a 30 year old should be wearing. Id tell you that you look adorable and that I’d have so much fun shopping in your wardrobe ;)

  3. Amanda says:

    This outfit looks fantastic on you! And I’m totally with you on the whole dressing your age thing being silly. Everyone should wear what they want and makes them feel good, I mean that’s definitely what I do :)

  4. britoct18 says:

    I LOVE knee highs! Wore them everyday in high school (was a total fan of my Catholic school uniform!) I miss them so much and love that you can rock them like nobody’s business.

    • lalafauxbois says:

      I think it would’ve been awesome to have a school uniform so I wouldn’t have spent all that time everyday picking outfits instead of sleeping!

  5. Jena says:

    You’re such a rebel ;) You look great! You should join our link up party – Let Your Light Shine Thursdays

  6. Sammi says:

    Great points, Lisa. I always believe that, above all else, you should wear things that make YOU happy and feel amazing. I don’t like the thought of dressing to please someone else, and I believe that if you’re wearing something that makes you smile, you can’t go wrong. As far as dressing “your age” — first of all, I always forget that you and I aren’t the same age, but secondly, I think as long as you know what’s appropriate for a given occasion or what looks good on you, then forget everything else!

    xox Sammi

    • lalafauxbois says:

      I totally agree Sammi! I definitely try to dress appropriate for the occasion- like no knee socks at the office :)

      Let’s just keep pretending I’m the same age as you, ok?! ;)

  7. Lexi says:

    I think it’s great that you don’t conform to the fashion rules of dressing “your age”!Every one should dress in what they love and not how they think they should. I’m only 20 now, but I hope when I’m 30, 40, 50, and older that I still am wearing what I love. Your outfits always inspire me, because they are just so you.

  8. chantilly says:

    Yes, yes, YES. I’ve been thinking about this a lot, and have been wanting to write a post on it as well.

    I feel like I hear this message so much, even on supposed feminist websites… that a woman “should be” acting/ dressing for her age. I think it’s offensive, honestly. To me, it’s just another way to try to put women in boxes, and dictate how it is acceptable for us to look and act. In short, it’s bullshit :P

    You look awesome Lisa, and I love your knee socks :) Rock it, girl!! xx


    • lalafauxbois says:

      Thanks Chantilly! I agree, it’s so annoying and hypocritical to hear stuff like that, especially on feminist sites!

  9. Kristian says:

    Interestingly, I was just listening to a blogger’s ideas on this topic (suzanne Carillo’s). I think you’re very right. I do think that what you wear needs to work for your lifestyle neeeds (usually what you do for work. For example, as a teacher, I have to dress with a certain amount of professionalism. But so do the male teachers), but that you can find your style even within those limits. And if it fits your lifestyle- why not wear it? Just wear what you love!

    Anyway, long winded response to day I love that you wear things you like :D

  10. Anna says:

    The socks are fantastic! They really pop. Loving that bag, too. <3 I often think about whether I'd be able to wear half the things in my closet 10 years from now. Haha. I try not to think too much about "dressing my age" whatever that means, but I also try to be mindful of things that just won't work at a later stage in life. I admit that there are many things I might have to "retire," but I dunno. Maybe I can still rock a jumpsuit when I'm 50. Haha. We'll see! :D

    – Anna

    • lalafauxbois says:

      Thank Anna! I’m sure you will be able to rock a jumpsuit when you’re 50- you have such a fun style that I think will always be with you! :)

  11. Jessica says:

    This is such a great post. I love your outfit and I love everything you are saying. I agree that there should be no age limit on style or whatever makes you happy. I get shit all the time for liking ABCFamily shows and I’m like, “it’s just tv,” Preach on, girl.

    • lalafauxbois says:

      Thanks Jessica! I’m with ya on the tv thing too- I still love teen dramas, don’t think I’ll ever outgrow them :)

  12. Elana says:

    I am seriously in love with this dress, and might I add, if you ever were to put it up for swap, I call first dibs. Just putting it out there ;) I totally agree with you! Being at such weird point growing up in my life, I often wonder if I should start learning to dress more “grown up” and stay away from the Peter Pan collars and pleats. But then I remember how much I love them and say fuck it. I love these socks on you and everything else you wear. Major kudos to you for always wearing what makes you happy.

    • lalafauxbois says:

      Thanks Elana! I am putting this dress up for swaps- just hadn’t gotten around to it yet, so I will send it to you sometime this week :)

  13. Marisa says:

    I’ve been right there with you and have especially given this A LOT of thought this past week – while sporting my cupcake sweater and later on my ice cream print tights. I hate these kind of rules to bits and fully believe in wearing what you love and feel best in. But in the back of my mind, I’m always thinking people probably think I’m nuts, haha. Whatever.

    You know me, I LOVE all your outfits. But this is a new favorite of mine for sure!

  14. I agree! Wear what makes you happy. The only style that goes out of style the older you get is… bad style. Haha! I think that if someone in their 30’s or 40’s shouldn’t be wearing something, then most likely someone in their teens or 20’s shouldn’t be wearing it, either (hello, booty shorts).

    I read an article the other day saying that women over thirty shouldn’t wear leopard print, and I actually scoffed out loud at it. Seriously. Whoever wrote that was an idiot.

    And I think you look fantastic in this, and it doesn’t look like you’re trying to dress young or inappropriately for your age or anything! A lot of carrying a style has to do with the personality and confidence of the person, and I think you’re rocking it!

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